Life Lessons

We often hear people saying “This is my lesson!”

We’ve all been to school. We all know what it means to learn a lesson. We also know what it means to apply it in practice, to experiment and evaluate results.

It is the same in life. We practice what we have learned, we experiment and sometimes analyze the outcomes. However the theme of our life lesson often eludes us. Why were we put into a certain situation in life? Why did a certain person appear in our life? Was it just a coincidence or was it more to it?

According to Spiritual Psychology there are 12 main Life Lessons:

1.  Acceptance
2.  Adaptation
3.  Be-ing
4.  Charity
5.  Communication
6.  Creation
7.  Definition
8.  Integrity
9.  Love
10.  Trust
11.  Truth
12.  Grace

A Spiritual Psychologist helps people to identify the theme of their Life Lesson. It is usually very difficult for a person to identify his or her main Life Lesson without assistance because it’s hard to observe and interpret a situation without self-bias. Spiritual Psychology uses the term “blind spot” to describe this phenomenon. This occurs when a person is blind to certain things in their life – these things though will be obvious to a facilitator of Spiritual Psychology.

Why would we want to identify our Life Lesson?

I’ll explain why with a simple example.

Olga (38 years of age) is married with two kids. She works as an accountant. Her life lesson is Definition. Her life seems to be normal but she often realizes that she isn’t happy. She often has problems with her husband and kids. They always want her at their every beckon demanding washing, cooking, cleaning etc…  Her husband is constantly making snide remarks and knows how to force her to do what he wants. Her opinion isn’t even considered. At work, her colleagues don’t hesitate to dump their work on her and her boss, for some reason, seems to pick on her  all the time. Olga used to have a lot of energy, she always managed to stay on top of her problems, was active and able to let many things roll off her back. Her husband’s and boss’s remarks didn’t bother her. But over time, she seemed to notice that she lost the desire to listen to her husband, she got tired of constantly cleaning up after her children… They’re old enough to clean up after themselves after all! But no! Everybody needs mom! Her husband calls her once again to do something, and she has to do it even though she wants to lie down on the couch and read a book in silence. But she can’t tell her husband that because it will spur emotional reactions that will evolve into a serious argument. It’s easier to just do it…

Familiar story?

What’s the problem here? People, whose life lesson is Definition, come to this world with a very bright energy but very weak boundaries. That is, they have problems identifying where their own problems end and somebody else’s begin. They find it very difficult to deny a person what they want and tell them “No!”. They often attract very manipulative people into their life who masterfully control and influence them to their own agenda. Up to a certain point in life, this type of person finds this satisfactory. One day though they begin to understand that they are not happy and something needs to change! There could be many reasons for this realization: spouse beginning to infuriate them, constant illnesses and depressing moods, feeling that nothing brings happiness to their life anymore… Basically life starts to lose meaning.

All they really have to do is learn how to establish healthy energetic boundaries; to understand how to differentiate their own problems from those of others, to learn how to take care of themselves. Then their self-esteem will improve and people will begin treating them differently. Then, life will change and regain its  harmony and beauty!

And what does a person really need to be happy? Harmony with yourself and the outside world! Wouldn’t you agree?